Thursday, 21 October 2010

A New Beginning

The last year has been a challenging one. There have been many changes which have been good for the family, but in amongst them all I feel as if I have lost my own identity. At times I have been left feeling lonely and lost. I have been through rough times before and I recognise the danger signs. I don’t want to let myself sink as low as I know I can. 

SO, its time to take action!!!

No more ignoring the problem, no more putting on a brave face but feeling numb. I don't want my unhappiness to affect my child(ren) and my husband. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE being a Mum and I LOVE spending time with my daughter, its just that I am beginning to discover the importance of ME time. I don't want to be one of those women who sacrifice everything including their own sense of worth for their children.

I have decided that I am going to give myself challenges of both the crafty kind and the personal kind. I intend to complete at least one crafty challenge a month. I am not a particularly crafty person, so be prepared for some failures along the way!!! The personal challenges are a bit more long term. I would love it if you join me in my journey.
Here is a list of the creative challenges that immediately spring to mind (in no particular order):
  • Knit a blanket for the new baby (who is due 12 December 2010)
  • Make a Christmas stocking for our 2 year old daughter (my Mum made a Christmas stocking for me and I would like to do the same for my daughter)
  • As a way of making sure that this new found crafting enthusiasm doesn't fizzle out, I have decided to take part in The Kiwi Christmas Ornament Swap. My mind is full of ideas and I can't wait to get started!
  • With help from the little monkey make dough Christmas tree decorations for our tree
  • Make a Christmas Stocking for the new bubs (this will probably wait till next year)
  • With help from the little monkey, make Christmas Cards to send to the family
  • Make a Peg Bag
  • Knit a childs jumper
  • Make a toddler dress


Here is a list of the Personal Challenges that immediately spring to mind:
  • Start and regularly update a blog of my progress
  • Join and regularly attend a playgroup.
  • Invite the neighbour around for coffee and a get-together (Since we moved into our house 2 months ago, 3 other neighbours have moved in, its time to get to know them and stop making excuses!)
  •  Try to really connect with a few people around me and feel more comfortable in our new home.
  • Find something fulfilling to do while the little monkey is off at preschool. I just have to work out what this means... voluntary work, an open university course, who knows, just something to keep the brain ticking over

Wish me luck!!!

    5 comments:

    1. well done its just the job good luck and keep me posted

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    2. I think you would be surprised at how sooooooooo many other mums out there relate to how you are feeling! I found when my first babies were young it was one of the loneliest times in my life. everything changed when I joined a coffee group and found a couple of very like minded friends. It was the highlight of my week!! It takes a bit of boldness sometimes to reach out or introduce yourself to others, sometimes I felt as though I was picking up someone in a bar haha "would you like to come back to my place for a coffee? can I have your number" kinda thing ;)But it's totally worth it.
      All the best xo

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    3. p.s
      oh and if you haven't tried it yet joining a music group with your toddler is a fantastic way to meet new people and the kids really love it as well. Mainly music is the most popular around, you could probably look on their website for a session near you.

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    4. Good luck with your challenges. I know I can certainly relate to how your feeling. I'm in Christchurch too, have been here a couple of years but still very lonely as I don't have any family or many friends down here.

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    5. Welcome to blog land, we are all pretty sane over here, well most of the time. I too started my blog when my 2 boys were little, 2005 I think I started. I am crafty but have not done much in the last 7 yrs due to growing the boys, but am slowly working my way back into it. Sadly I live in the north island otherwise I would have happily had you round for coffee or tea or even good old HC.
      Keep your head held high and smile all the time. Look forward to catching up with what you have been doing.

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